My Approach

There’s no change without deep acceptance of our genetics, circumstances, and limitations. By acknowledging these factors, we create a meaningful starting point for growth. This includes making meaning from struggles, embracing feedback, focusing on one day at a time, and taking personal responsibility for change.

We often underestimate how much our social networks and environment shape us. By understanding these influences, we can better harness our strengths and navigate our limitations. Engineering our environment with positive connections and meaningful daily triggers helps reinforce the life we want to create.

Different people have different capacities for effort. Understanding your personal "effort gas tank" helps you direct your energy where it will be most impactful. Growth is about wisely allocating your effort toward meaningful change.

We often seek relief instead of growth, relying on short-term coping strategies that can take us further from our goals. This includes “blame therapy” that focuses on blaming others - especially parents - and “venting”. Deep validation of struggle matters but blaming others by itself leads to more suffering. Instead, prioritizing short-term effort that builds long-term well-being is the key to sustainable progress. If you're looking for someone to simply listen and validate you alone, I may not be the right fit. However, if you want both validation and the motivation to activate your life to meet your goals—even when it's challenging—then let's go!

Hydration, nutrition, movement, and mindfulness are vital components of well-being. While these practices are ultimately your choice, I will actively encourage their importance. Including taking therapy breaks to do physical things and taking “session walks”

Some change is fast; some is slow. The pace doesn’t matter as much as consistent movement and growth, even when there are setbacks. It is about persistence.